Discernment Counselling
You have one spouse who is ambivalent about staying married in the relationship as they’re considering divorce. They haven’t yet fully decided but they’re leaning out.
The other spouse is what we call the leaning-in spouse, and they are interested in doing therapy.
What is Discernment Counselling?
Discernment counselling is different from traditional couples therapy. Instead of focusing on fixing the relationship, it helps couples decide whether to:
- Work towards reconciliation with a renewed commitment.
- Pursue separation or divorce with mutual understanding.
- Postpone a decision while gaining deeper insight.
This process is designed for couples where one or both partners are uncertain about continuing the relationship.
Are You Unsure Whether to Stay Together or Separate?
Deciding whether to stay in a marriage or move toward divorce is one of the most difficult choices a couple can face. Often, one partner is leaning towards leaving while the other wants to save the relationship. This imbalance can create frustration, fear and confusion.
Discernment caounselling is a short-term, structured approach designed to help couples gain clarity about their relationship and make a confident, informed decision about their future. We are committed to providing a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your feelings, understand your options and determine the best path forward.
How Does Discernment Counselling Work?
The process includes both individual and joint conversations with a trained therapist. It typically involves:
- Understanding the current situation – Identifying the challenges that brought you to this point.
- Exploring relationship dynamics – Recognising patterns and behaviours that have contributed to difficulties.
- Assessing potential for change – Evaluating whether the relationship can improve and what would be required.
- Clarifying personal goals – Helping each partner reflect on what they truly want.
- Making a decision – Determining whether to work on the marriage or separate in a respectful way.
Each session is designed to reduce pressure and help both partners feel heard, respected and understood.
The Benefits of Discernment Counselling
- Clarity and confidence – Makean informed decision rather than an impulsive one.
- Less regret – Reduce the chances of making a choice you may later question.
- Improved communication – Even if you separate, the process helps foster mutual respect.
- Healthier transitions – If divorce is the decision. discernment counselling can help set a cooperative one.
Take the Next Step
If you and your partner are struggling to decide whether to stay together or separate, discernment counselling can provide the clarity you need. You don’t have to navigate this decision alone. Contact us today to schedulea consultation and take the first step towards greater understanding and peace of mind.